When we ask for an opinion we immediately set ourselves up for the truth as others see it. Asking for an opinion is a 50/50 shot at receiving good or bad results. We are always compelled to ask, we seek the answer we want to hear. Just the thought that someone is going to give us the answer we want, every time is ridiculous. Nobody ever gets those kind of results, the odds of it are mind-boggling. Yet we still ask, expecting what we want to hear and being upset when we don't hear it. Does this dress look good? Do I look fat? Do you like what I wrote? All question's of opinion are subjective, all request makers are overly optimistic that they will hear the results they seek. Why do we seek confirmation of something we are already satisfied with? It is human nature to seek positive reinforcement, and just as human to be devastated by the negative. Have you ever noticed that people who are confident in their own choices and opinions are the ones that usually end up starting new trends with people who want to follow or emulate them. The answer to why, is that people are attracted to confidence in life and choices. Asking for an opinion shows you might not be confident in your choice, presenting your choices confidently reflects that you are above question in your choice. So what does all this jibber jabber mean? Remember before you ask for that opinion, are you really prepared to hear the answer that you are not seeking? If the answer is no, then don't ask for what you do not want to hear, be confident in your choices and who you are. Save the opinions for situations that you are truly conflicted on, and need the advice. If you like the dress or the book, present them as something you like and remain confident in your choices. Marching to our own drum, makes us who we are......
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